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Night before last my significant other and I got into a small tiff. It could have been much worse, but he’s an understanding guy. That and I didn’t do my usual blame game bullshit.

What caused the tiff? I got hurt. I won’t go into detail, but what hurt me wasn’t done with that intent at all. And I knew it, but it didn’t change the facts. I was hurt most of all because I’d let us become distant. I’d let my goals blind me to things I’ve been neglecting, including the man I love.

If I’d not been so single minded about working on this blog and making moves towards making some money with it, I’d never have let so much distance get between us. Its not the first time we’ve had a disconnect, but it’s certainly been the worse.

I’d let it get so bad, that I started feeling unimportant. I started thinking that I didn’t matter to him, though I should have known better. What the heart and mind of a woman in love know are often very different for what she should know if she were thinking rationally!

After our discussion, I realized I’d been a bit of an ass. I had been ignoring him (unintentionally) and he has yet to give me hell over it. He knows I am going through a ton of BS in my life right now, but that is no excuse for me not checking in with him when I could. Focusing so much on moving forward with my business is no excuse either.

If I’d not been ignoring him, I would have known what was going on instead of feeling blind sided by it. And we could have talked about his reasons for the thing that upset me before it became upsetting.

He’s reached out to me several times in the past several weeks, yet I’ve not been doing the things I used to do to show that I care. That’s going to have to change, and change fast. He deserves the best, and I’ve been far from that the past several weeks.

I am not saying I will stop focusing on moving this blog forward. That would be as dumb as passing up a job opportunity for a man..and totally not my style. What I am going to do is start being more present in the right now. I will focus on the blog when I can, my studies when I should, my love every chance I am blessed to have.

Why do I share this with you?  I don’t want to see anyone else making the mistake of focusing on their personal goals to such an extent that you come close to ruining a good relationship. It doesn’t matter what relationship…romantic, familial or friendly. Its those who are important enough for us to have a relationship with that make this life worth living. It makes improving one’s self and one’s lot in life something to strive for. Focus on your goals, but remember that friends and family come first…this includes your spouse or romantic partner.

Your Turn: Have you ever focused so intensely on something that you lost or nearly lost a relationship that was important to you? How did you make amends? Were you able to save the relationship or did you not see what was happening until it was too late? I’d love to hear your tips on finding a work/life balance!

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