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Do you have those moments where something suddenly becomes so clear to you? I have them often and call them either “AHA! moments” or “Light bulb moments”. These moments can literally take my breath away OR leave me speechless. The latter is NOT an easy thing to do, either 
Last night and today have spurred two..yes TWO of those moments. Plus some other self realizations. Some things I have realized about myself are
⇒ I am more of a perfectionist than I ever knew.
⇒ I have a hard time seeing the small steps for wanting the journey to be done.
⇒ I am a fofnoficator.
⇒ I am afraid of being…ordinary.
⇒ I dislike letting any or all of these stop me from doing my best at things that are important to me, namely blogging.
The first two are pretty easy to work with. For the perfectionism, I just have to take the time to realize when its good enough. Nothing is ever perfect, but it can be just close enough to be satisfying to share. For the seeing the small steps, I will just have to work harder on picking out which step to take now, then the next step…and repeat.
Having fear of failure though…that is killer for me. I’ve never really failed at anything…except when I’ve given up. Oh, I’ve gotten a few F’s on tests or what not, but the class grade has always been at least a B. And now I’ve set myself up for public failure. *shakes in her proverbial boots* That’s the big kahuna that my fear fears most.
What can I do for this fear? Can I learn to work around it? Eh, I do at times. Other times it nearly paralyzes me. I think I realizing that its okay to not make the grade I want can help. I also think seeing that one can not succeed with out failures is something I need to work hard on. How can we measure success if we’ve never failed?
I am still working on the fear of being ordinary. Sometimes I totally dig that I am ordinary. However, with this blogging and working on making a living on my own terms…ordinary isn’t going to be good enough. I will need to push my limits and find that space where my ordinary is someone else’s extraordinary. That is daunting. I don’t know the hows yet, but I know I must so there for I will.
Your Turn: What tips or tricks to you have to help me trounce my fears? I’d love to have your help, just add your tips in the comments!
P.S. My AHA! Moments came while talking with the good people in the Skype Room called the Bloggers Lounge. You can get an invite into the group by responding in the comments with your Skype name (or you can email me if your more comfortable with that).
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Thanks for the post,
Fear of failure is hard to overcome. Getting ahead can sometimes be difficult.
One important thing that may help is to take a step back and anaylze your goals and paths. Having a firm goal in mind with a path to get there is essential. Without firm goals and plans all the hard work in the world can avail you nothing and just leave you spinning your tires in the much so to say.
In a phrase, learn to work smarter not harder
Steve Scott Site´s last blog ..How to Organize Your Life – 11 Simple Tips
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Hey, Steve.
I think you’ve hit on one of my big obstacles that I need to Fix ASAP. I need to get my goals into more concrete form so I can map out the path better. I do get the spinning my wheels feeling ALOT! Not fun at all. I do try to work smarter, but this is all so new to me I am still learning some of the smart methods.
Thanks so much for stopping by and giving such great info. I think it will help not only me but my readers as well! Do you have a post on this somewhere in your archives? If so, please come back and leave a link so we can check it out! If not, would you consider a guest post on this topic to be published here?
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I know what you mean. The only official “failure” I’ve registered was my first driving test, and I can tell you a whole story of how that happened, just so it doesn’t seem to count.
The point is, it doesn’t. Not in that “oh, no, I’ve failed and my life will be miserable forever” kind of way. And failures rarely mean that, anyway. Usually, whatever we do that isn’t its best, is an opportunity to learn: better ways to do things, what not to do, what part actually worked. And every opportunity we learn from makes our life more of a success.
So there is a causal relationship between failure and success. The more you fail, the more successful you will be.
Or something like that.
So, yes, I try to remind myself of this little gem often. And when that doesn’t work, I visualize butterflies.
At least they make me smile.
Hugs and butterflies,
~Teresa~
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Hey T,
thanks so much for sharing this! You are absolutely right, and some how I will learn to see possibly failing as a not so bad thing. Failing will always suck, but its never as bad as you fear before hand…and that’s if the fail actually comes to pass. Funny how I KNOW all this stuff, but a part of my still refuses to accept it
Glad you stopped by, I hope you have a wonderful weekend full of pretty butterflies and energizing sunshine.
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Great post!
You are absolutely right about failure. We cannot take the next step and progress to the new height if we cannot measure success. Don’t sweat the small stuff and you need practice to deal with these problems. You got a nice blog
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Thanks for stopping by Justin. I do need to stop sweating the small stuff and some of the big stuff. I need more patience and a ton more practice. Thanks for the kind words about the blog
Hope to see you around more.. Have a great weekend 
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